外國(guó)人去瑞典移民的真實(shí)生活

　大多數(shù)瑞典人的內(nèi)心是很善良的，可是很多外國(guó)人到了瑞典移民的時(shí)候還是感覺到瑞典人的冷，這種冷不是不熱情，而是是一種走不進(jìn)的距離和疏離感，他們很安靜，很有禮貌，文質(zhì)彬彬，你遇到困難也會(huì)伸出援手，可是卻無(wú)法擁有一起大塊喝酒，大塊吃肉的暢快感，永遠(yuǎn)不要想象可以和瑞典的朋友好到穿一條褲子，他們從小自我，獨(dú)立，好的教養(yǎng)意識(shí)讓他們大多數(shù)的時(shí)候都表現(xiàn)的很高素質(zhì)，至少在公共場(chǎng)合的時(shí)候是這樣的，沒有誰(shuí)有野蠻或者無(wú)賴的舉動(dòng)，幾十年的老鄰居相處的很和睦，每天一起喝咖啡，卻可能永遠(yuǎn)不知道各家其中的各色隱事，個(gè)人隱私，久遠(yuǎn)的故事，無(wú)論怎樣個(gè)人的選擇都會(huì)被普遍尊重， 比如同性戀，比如終身不嫁， 終身未娶，除了涉及人品的行為沒有人會(huì)對(duì)別人的生活說(shuō)三道四，當(dāng)然如果是不道德的行為還是會(huì)被大部分人鄙視。
Most swedes heart is very kind, but many foreigners when the Swedish immigrants still feel cold, Swedish this cold not enthusiastic, but it is a kind of can't walk into the distance and sense of alienation, their quiet, polite, gentle, will help you meet difficulties, but can't together with large pieces of drinking, large pieces of meat carefree feeling, can never imagine and Sweden friend to wear a pair of trousers, they grew up self, independent, good education consciousness let most of the time they are of very high quality, at least in public, no one has a brutal or rogue move, decades of old neighbor very harmonious get along, together to drink coffee every day, can never know all the untitled, personal privacy, long story, no matter how personal choice is widely respected, such as homosexuality, such as lifelong not marry, lifelong not marry, in addition to involving personal character behavior no one would comment on someone else's life, of course if it's immoral behavior will despised by most people.
　　瑞典的男人也大多數(shù)很靦腆，除非他們喝過(guò)酒才會(huì)和女孩子搭訕，否則無(wú)論你多么漂亮迷人，風(fēng)情萬(wàn)種在瑞典的街頭都沒有男人的注視或者口哨，抑或嬉皮笑臉的搭訕。街上的人都行色匆匆，除了夏天明媚的陽(yáng)光下碰到陌生人會(huì)打個(gè)招呼，或者善意的微笑，多數(shù)的時(shí)候瑞典人的臉上都掛著距離感。
Swedish men are most shy unless they drank wine and girls, otherwise no matter how beautiful your amorous feelings street in Sweden are no man gaze or whistle, or hippies. As the people in the street in a hurry, in addition to the summer sunshine met strangers will say hello, smile or goodwill, most of the time the swedes distance are hung on her face.
　　和一個(gè)瑞典人討論過(guò)他們的冷漠，瑞典人的自我解釋是人家說(shuō)美國(guó)人像水蜜桃，外表甜美柔軟，內(nèi)核確是堅(jiān)硬的，瑞典人就像堅(jiān)果，外面是一層堅(jiān)硬的殼里面確是柔軟芬芳的。聽說(shuō)想和瑞典人交知心的朋友，要付出幾年或者半生的時(shí)光，但是一旦成為他們的朋友，那友誼卻是終生的。
And discussed their apathy, a Swedish as swedes themselves to explain the somebody else say the United States like peach, sweet soft appearance, the kernel is hard, swedes like nuts, outside is a layer of hard shell inside is soft and fragrant. Heard that want to and the swedes make bosom friends, to pay a few years or half of the time, but once you become their friends, but the friendship is for life.
　　在瑞典，沒有人情事故，沒有趨炎附勢(shì)，都是淡淡的來(lái)淡淡的去。沒有腐敗，沒有綠燈，一切都按原則和規(guī)則，少了很多人情味也少了很多虛與委蛇。 冬天對(duì)大多數(shù)生活在瑞典的人來(lái)說(shuō)都是單調(diào)和寂寞的，很少的陽(yáng)光，很大的雪。從早晨9點(diǎn)多的時(shí)候天亮，下午不到三點(diǎn)天就完全黑了，天亮也不是明亮如夏天，而是一絲灰蒙蒙的樣子，不過(guò)因?yàn)樘炜帐撬{(lán)的，便有一絲藍(lán)蒙蒙的樣子，漫漫長(zhǎng)夜，四五個(gè)多小時(shí)的天亮，陽(yáng)光也很少出來(lái)讓初到瑞典的我一度很嗜睡和說(shuō)不出來(lái)的壓抑。在南部靠海的馬爾默，淅淅瀝瀝的雨水雪花加上有時(shí)出現(xiàn)的大霧，整個(gè)一個(gè)冬天見不到太陽(yáng)也是很正常的。偶爾有太陽(yáng)的時(shí)候是一度讓人興奮的，街上便人頭攢動(dòng)，每個(gè)人都盡情的享受陽(yáng)光，同樓的一個(gè)瑞典男生有一次夸張的告訴我習(xí)慣了一個(gè)冬天沒見陽(yáng)光的天氣，明媚的春天來(lái)臨的日子，看著窗外耀眼的陽(yáng)光，他不知道發(fā)生了什么，最后笑了一笑自己， 想起那是久違的陽(yáng)光。等到一周后參加派對(duì)的時(shí)候碰到了讓我好驚訝的一件事和開始了對(duì)瑞典人思維的第一個(gè)了解。晚上六點(diǎn)的時(shí)候約好了上次做義務(wù)工的學(xué)生一起泡桑那并被叮囑帶泳衣，等我拿著泳衣到學(xué)生會(huì)樓的時(shí)候已經(jīng)晚了半個(gè)小時(shí)，打電話給我的中國(guó)男同學(xué)，他半圍著浴巾跑了出來(lái)，我問(wèn)女生的桑拿房在哪里，他說(shuō)男的女的都在一起。 什么????我不相信的看著他，真的假的??真的，北歐特色男女共蒸桑拿你還不來(lái)體驗(yàn)一下，他開玩笑的問(wèn)我然后哈哈壞笑。我擰著他的胳膊最后證實(shí)了的確是男女一起的，呆滯。。。。。。然后確認(rèn)女的都裹著浴巾或者泳衣，男人都是裸體的時(shí)候我便誓死也不肯進(jìn)去。最后他進(jìn)去穿好衣服我們到旁邊玩球，經(jīng)過(guò)桑拿房的時(shí)候，有女孩子裹了浴巾出來(lái)，然后門是開著的，兩個(gè)男生赤裸的站在里面喝著啤酒聊著天。我閉著眼睛不可思議的走了過(guò)去，然后男女共桑拿便成為中國(guó)同學(xué)談笑的新奇段子。
In Sweden, no experience, no snobbery, is light to light. There is no corruption, there is no green light, everything according to the principles and rules, much less appreciate it a lot less pretended. In the winter for most people in Sweden are dull and lonely, little sunshine, a lot of snow. From more than 9 o 'clock in the morning when the morning, less than three o 'clock in the afternoon it was completely dark, the night also is not clear as in the summer, but the appearance of a gray, but because the sky is blue, there is a blue haze of appearance, all night long, more than four or five hours of the morning, the sun and rarely come out to let I to Sweden in the early once very sleepiness and said not to come out of depression. Near the sea in the south of malmo, rain falling snowflakes and sometimes in the fog, the one can't see the sun in the winter also is very normal. Occasionally when having the sun once is exciting, the street is crowded, everyone enjoy the sunshine, with the floor of a Swedish boys have an exaggerated tell I haven't seen the sun used to a winter weather, sunny spring days, watching the dazzling sunshine out of the window, he don't know what happened, finally smiled to smile, think of that is sunshine in a long time. Wait until a week after the party when met a thing let me surprise and began to the swedes thinking of the first to know. 6 PM when the appointment last time together to be compulsory students Tucson, Arizona and was told to bring swimsuit, when I take a swimsuit to the student union building is half an hour late, call my Chinese male classmate, he half around the bath towel ran out, I asked the girl where the sauna room, he said the man woman together. What?????? I don't believe that looked at him, really?? True, men and women in the Nordic characteristics sauna you still not to experience, he jokingly asked me then ha ha bad smile. I twist the arm of his final confirmed is men and women together, dull... Then confirm woman wrapped in a towel or a bathing suit, and men are naked when I also would not go in to the last. Wear good clothes we finally he enter into the next to play ball, after a sauna, a girl wrapped in a towel, and then the door is open, the two boys stood naked inside drinking beer chatted. I walked with closed eyes incredible in the past, and then the men and women altogether sauna became the Chinese students and novelty.
　　在瑞典移民，沒有男人尋找處女，或者介意你不是處女，無(wú)論你是離婚的，帶孩子的，無(wú)論你有怎樣的情感歷史，那是你自己的隱私，每個(gè)人都無(wú)權(quán)干涉，選擇你的那個(gè)人選擇了你就不會(huì)介意你的過(guò)去。你的過(guò)去也不需要為任何人負(fù)責(zé)。你自己選擇自己的人生和行為，并對(duì)自己的人生和行為負(fù)責(zé)。我的一個(gè)瑞典朋友是飛行員，年輕英俊，愛上了一個(gè)離了婚還帶了兩個(gè)孩子的比他大10歲的女人，他和她一直都很相愛，他和她一起撫養(yǎng)她與前夫的兩個(gè)孩子，與她相愛到老。她們的婚姻沒有得到任何人的干涉和反對(duì)。因?yàn)樵谌鸬淙说挠^念里，那是他們自己的選擇，別人無(wú)權(quán)干涉，包括雙方的父母姐妹親戚子女和社會(huì)輿論。
In Sweden immigration, there is no man looking for a virgin, or mind if you are not a virgin, no matter you are divorced, with children, no matter how you have emotional history, it is your own privacy, everyone has no right to interfere, the personal choice you chose you wouldn't mind your past. Your past is not responsible for anyone. You choose your own life and behavior, and shall be responsible for your own life and behavior. A friend is one of my Swedish pilot, handsome young, fell in love with a divorced with two children is 10 years older than his woman, he and she has always been very much in love, he and she together raise her and her two children, and her love to the old. Their marriage didn't get the intervention and against anyone. Because the idea of people in Sweden, it's their own choice, have no right to interfere in others, including parents and sisters relatives children and public opinion on both sides.